To Speak or Not to Speak

They say that Speech is silver, but silence is golden.

Silence, or perhaps we should say discretion, is better than speaking eloquently. When in doubt of what to say, in many cases, it’s better not to say anything at all.  Talking can land us in a lot of trouble.

This Sanskrit subhaashit tells us-

 आत्मनो मुखदोषेण बध्यन्ते शुकसारिकाः |
बकास्तत्र न बध्यन्ते मौनं सर्वार्थसाधनम् ||

Talking birds like the parrot and the myna, are caught and imprisoned in cages. However no one puts  a crane [who does not/cannot speak] in a cage. [The moral is that] silence is the means to get whatever one wants.

Sometimes we prefer to be silent because we do not want to hurt someone. In that case our silence may be commendable.

Why hurt anyone unnecessarily?

Sometimes, as I have mentioned earlier here,  good people feel that it is useless to speak out in an atmosphere where probity is not valued.

भो भद्र कृतं मौनं कोकिलैर्जलदागमे |
वक्तारो दुर्दुरा यत्र तत्र मौनं हि शोभनम् ||

It is befitting that the (sweet-voiced) cuckoo birds observe silence at the start of the rainy season. Where frogs are the speakers, it is best to be silent.


On the other hand one remembers that Martin Luther King Jr. said

“The ultimate tragedy is not the oppression and cruelty by the bad  people but the silence over that by the good people.”

Obviously, silence is not always desirable. There are times when it is necessary to speak out. And in those times, silence is not golden.

To keep silent because one does not have the courage to speak up against injustice, is not really justifiable. But we often do keep silent in such cases.

This is particularly true if the injustice does not affect us personally.  Why stick our necks out?

We know very well that in all likelihood the injustice will reach our doorsteps eventually, but why speak up before then?

The truth is that  it is not easy to speak up against social injustice. Anyone attempting to do so runs the risk of verbal attack or character assassination.

The powerful being named as wrong-doers, will search for any skeletons, however small, in the closets of those speaking up. If none are found, skeletons will be manufactured, and paraded out as proof that those speaking up are themselves guilty.


So here’s the dilemma- how do we know when to speak and when to keep silent?

To paraphrase  the first line of Hamlet’s soliloquy –

“To speak, or not to speak, that is the question.”

And this is a question which confronts us very often.

When is silence beneficial and when does it become harmful?

When is silence discretion and when does it become dishonest?

Is there a simple answer?

What do you think?




  1. I will suggest a movie I jsut saw , Eddie murphy’s 1000 words , or something like that .. he has 1000 words left and after that he will die..

    and no there is no simple answer, very difficult 🙂 and I speak too much as such so I ma the last one to comment on that


    1. No doubt one should be discrete. But I think it is also necessary to take care that discretion is not stretched so far that we become dishonest.


  2. Discretion is to be exercised before deciding to speak out or not. But as you have also pointed out, speaking out is fraught with danger of being victimised, which can become counterproductive. Truly a choice between the devil and the deep sea.


  3. Very difficult to decide whether to speak or not, esp. when in a group. Less we speak, the better, I feel.

    “The ultimate tragedy is not the oppression and cruelty by the bad people but the silence over that by the good people.” This is very true, Manju. This is happening all the time in front of our eyes. Sometimes even we just ignore and pass on. We don’t like to take responsibility.

    The quotes are good!


    1. Yes it is difficult to decide. I suppose we just have to listen to our conscience.

      And yes, I agree- we are often reluctant to take responsibility……


  4. Well.. In this I am pathetic. I stay silent for most of the things. Sometimes I won’t have anything to say but sometime I know something goes wrong but still stay silent 😦 Need to change that..

    Nice post with interesting quotes from different sources 🙂 Liked it 🙂


    1. Most of us are like that, Kanagu. It is not easy to speak out.

      I think It becomes easier if many people speak up together!

      Glad you liked the post. 🙂


  5. Yes it is safest to celebrate the ‘Silence is golden rule’! Yet if are sure by our words will help the other then we may. But the choice of words and the underlying feelings have to be sincere.
    Thanks for a nice post.


  6. To speak, or not to speak, that is the question.
    no simple answer depends on situation, example Mahabharata story of elephant death and death of son when the king answered politically.


    1. Nice example. I suppose we could say that he answered politically [half-truth] for the greater good. Yes, it does depend on the situation.


  7. First they came for the Jews. I was silent. I was not a Jew. Then they came for the Communists. I was silent. I was not a Communist. Then they came for the trade unionists. I was silent. I was not a trade unionist. Then they came for me. There was no one left to speak for me.


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